The Bookly-Smartbottom Team

A lot of our posts are going to be about the kinds of things a soon-to-be married or married couple are going to face during the adventure that is their lives.

In order to make sense of them all and understand where we're coming from in order to be able to provide advice or comments, we decided to provide a more detailed introduction of ourselves.

As a Team
We are strong believers in self-reliance. It sounds like a sugar-coated way of saying we’re too stubborn and proud to accept help or support, and maybe it is sometimes, but we prefer to operate as a self-reliant, self-sufficient team. Don’t get us wrong! If we inherited a trust fund, or won a lottery we wouldn’t turn it down. But we’re proud we’ve done everything together on our own.

We operate in a "calculated-risk taking" fashion. We like to gather as much information as possible on things before making a decision. The bigger the decision, the more information and convincing, and therefore time, we need. Makes sense, right?

But this sometimes causes frustration in the person or people we are dealing with at that moment. In fact, it sometimes comes across as us “trying to manipulate the situation to cause a fight” or “trying to be a polite jerk”. We can sometimes see why we’re perceived this way, what with all the “Why is that”, “What about…” and "How come..." questions, but that’s how we work. We’re aware of this perception and try to avoid it, but it’s all too easy to get frustrated with someone in return when they fail or refuse to hear us in the first place.